Over the past week, I've started having a conversation with Tae about marriage. Mostly, our conversation took place on express bus to Boston. She started the conversation, naturally. She asked if I was married yet, we talked about who I was getting married to, and then... "Can I be your flower girl?" and from there on out, it was all about dresses and how beautiful flower girls are, and what kind of shoes do flower girls wear? She even told me that there's no such thing as a flower woman. Huh?
I snuck a little in about *why* people get married (because they love each other very much, because they want to be a family), and then she asked me, "Can two women get married?" And she made me very proud to know that she doesn't think marriage is defined as between a man and a woman.
Although, in complete honesty, I think she was thinking about me and her, how we love each other very much and want to be a family. Heck, she even thinks that if I live with her when her eggs hatch, that her babies will have two mommies. Sigh. But at least she's not thinking all heteronormatively. That's what's important.
I love this age b/c everything is ok as long as there is love. no questions asked. My son's friend has two dads and it must be the coolest thing ever to have two dads. Can you imagine? Dad is so much fun! Two dads must be even better! My daughter followed it up with "well X has two moms! That must great! I wish we had two moms X gets so many hugs!"
Yeah for living in liberal massachusetts!
Posted by: jenney | 2009.05.29 at 07:44 PM