I learned an invaluable lesson this week.
"You can have it all. Just not at the same time."
I have always been one to take on the world and then some. Usually, I make it out just fine.
My professional development stint in California is done, and I had an amazing opportunity to meet some amazing mentors and role models. It was so important to me to meet some Asian American women who had gone on to become presidents of colleges. And they had kids and famiies.
I think I had believed for myself that doing it all meant throwing myself in to my education, my career, and my family all at once. And mostly, I've done ok. But as I look forward to the next couple of years, and all the big goals and events that are coming up, I finally dawned on me that doing it all might mean that I do it all only moderately well. And that I find totally unacceptable.
I hadn't had a woman tell me that I can do it all, but just not all at once. And meeting some women who had done it all was so inspiring, and reassuring, like this huge burden that has been lifted from my shoulders.
So, in the next year, my goal is let myself off the hook a little about my work. And to put my family and myself first.
We'll see how it goes!!